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Interpersonal Skills Are Anything but "Soft"

Seth Godin

Are you good at your job?

Different, easier question: was Ty Cobb good at baseball?

It’s generally understood that Ty Cobb was a jerk. His teammates didn’t like him very much. But he’s still in the Hall of Fame. That’s because baseball keeps score… of hits, of runs and of catches.

What about your job? It’s probably a bit more complex.

There are linchpins, people who don’t shirk responsibility when the chips are down. And, among others, there are connectors, people with insights, folks who never seem to lose hope. Your company is staffed with people who can’t possibly be rated on a linear scale because you’re not baseball players. You are managers and inventors and leaders and promise-makers and supporters and bureaucrats and detail-oriented factotums.

And yet…

And yet we persist in hiring and training as if we’re a baseball team, as if easily defined skills are all that matter.

What causes successful organizations to fail? Stocks to fade, innovations to slow, customers to jump ship?

We can agree that certain focused skills are essential. That hiring coders who can’t code, salespeople who can’t sell, or architects who can’t architect is a short road to failure.

These skills — let’s call them vocational skills — have become the backbone of the HR process.

But how to explain that similar organizations with similarly vocationally-skilled people find themselves with very different outcomes?

By misdefining "vocational" and focusing on the apparently essential skills, we've diminished the value of the skills that actually matter.By misdefining "vocational" and focusing on the apparently essential skills, we’ve diminished the value of the skills that actually matter. Most of the textbooks business students experience and the tests business students take are about these vocational skills, the checkboxes that have to be checked.

But we give too little respect to the other skills when we call them “soft” and imply that they’re optional.

It turns out that what actually separates thriving organizations from struggling ones are the difficult-to-measure attitudes, processes, and perceptions of the people who do the work.

Culture defeats strategy, every time.

And yet…

Organizations spend a ton of time measuring the vocational skills, because they can. Because there are a hundred years of history. And mostly because it’s safe. It’s not personal, it’s business.

We know how to measure typing speed. We have a lot more trouble measuring passion or commitment.

Organizations give feedback on vocational skill output daily and save the other stuff for the annual review – if they measure it at all.

And organizations hire and fire based on vocational skill output all the time, but practically need an act of the Board to get rid of a negative thinker, a bully, or a sloth (if he’s good at something measurable).

Theft

If an employee at your organization walked out with a brand-new laptop every day, you’d have him arrested, or at least fired. If your bookkeeper was embezzling money every month, you’d do the same thing.

But when an employee demoralizes the entire team by undermining a project, or when a team member checks out and doesn’t pull his weight, or when a bully causes future stars to quit the organization, too often, we shrug and point out that this person has tenure, or vocational skills, or isn’t so bad.

But they’re stealing from us.

What Can We Teach?

Along the way, we’ve confirmed that vocational skills can be taught (you’re not born knowing engineering or copywriting or even graphic design, therefore they must be something we can teach), while we let ourselves off the hook when it comes to decision-making, eager participation, dancing with fear, speaking with authority, working in teams, seeing the truth, speaking the truth, inspiring others, doing more than we’re asked, caring and being willing to change things.

We underinvest in this training, fearful that these things are innate and can’t be taught.

We call these skills soft, making it easy for us to move on to something seemingly more urgent.

We rarely hire for these attributes because we’ve persuaded ourselves that vocational skills are impersonal and easier to measure.

And we fire slowly (and retrain rarely) when these skills are missing because we’re worried about stepping on toes, being called out for getting personal, or, possibly, wasting time on a lost cause.

Which is crazy, because infants aren’t good at any of the soft skills. Of course we learn them. We learn them accidentally, by osmosis, by the collisions we have with teachers, parents, bosses, and the world. But just because they’re difficult to measure doesn’t mean we can’t improve them, can’t practice them, can’t change.

Let's call interpersonal skills "real" skills instead of "soft." Real because they're at the heart of what we need today. Of course we can.

Let’s call them real skills, not soft.

Yes, they’re interpersonal skills. Leadership skills. The skills of charisma and diligence and contribution. But these modifiers, while accurate, somehow edge them away from the vocational skills, the skills that we actually hire for, the skills we measure a graduate degree on.

So let’s uncomfortably call them real skills instead.

Real because they work, because they’re at the heart of what we need today.

Real because even if you have the vocational skills, you’re no help to us without these human skills, the things we can’t write down or program a computer to do.

Real skills can’t replace vocational skills, of course not. What they can do is amplify the things you’ve already been measuring.

Imagine a team member with all the traditional vocational skills: productive, skilled, experienced. A resumé that can prove it.

That’s fine, it’s the baseline.

Now, add to that: perceptive, charismatic, driven, focused, goal-setting, inspiring and motivated. A deep listener, with patience.

What happens to your organization when someone like that joins your team?

Work to Be Done

Writing in the Harvard Business Review, Lou Solomon reports that 69% of managers are uncomfortable communicating with their employees. The only surprising thing about this statistic is how low it is.

How do we build people-centric organizations while also accepting the fact that two-thirds of our managers (presumably well-paid, well-trained, and integral to our success) are uncomfortable doing the essential part of their job?

In a recent survey, the Graduate Management Admission Council – the folks who own the GMAT exam – reported that although MBAs were strong in analytical aptitude, quantitative expertise, and information-gathering ability, they were sorely lacking in other critical areas that employers find equally attractive: strategic thinking, written and oral communication, leadership, and adaptability.

Are these mutually exclusive? Must we trade one for the other?

An Encyclopedia of Real Skills

The fact that there isn’t an accepted taxonomy of real skills demonstrates just how little effort organizations large and small have put into finding, improving, and developing real skills among their teams.

In this first draft, we’ve chosen five large categories and then given examples of each. Not a definitive taxonomy, but a start, a way to move the conversation and the investment forward.

The five categories might include:

Self Control — Once you’ve decided that something is important, are you able to persist in doing it, without letting distractions or bad habits get in the way? Doing things for the long run that you might not feel like doing in the short run.

Productivity — Are you skilled with your instrument? Are you able to use your insights and your commitment to actually move things forward? Getting non-vocational tasks done.

Wisdom — Have you learned things that are difficult to glean from a textbook or a manual? Experience is how we become adults.

Perception — Do you have the experience and the practice to see the world clearly? Seeing things before others have to point them out.

Influence — Have you developed the skills needed to persuade others to take action? Charisma is just one form of this skill.

Self Control

  • Adaptability to changing requirements
  • Agility in the face of unexpected obstacles
  • Alacrity and the ability to start and stop quickly
  • Authenticity and consistent behavior
  • Bouncing back from failure
  • Coach-ability and the desire to coach others
  • Collaborative mindset
  • Compassion for those in need
  • Competitiveness
  • Conscientiousness in keeping promises
  • Customer service passion
  • Eagerness to learn from criticism
  • Emotional intelligence
  • Endurance for the long haul
  • Enthusiasm for the work
  • Ethics even when not under scrutiny
  • Etiquette
  • Flexibility
  • Friendliness
  • Honesty
  • Living in balance
  • Managing difficult conversations
  • Motivated to take on new challenges
  • Passionate
  • Posture for forward motion
  • Purpose
  • Quick-wittedness
  • Resilience
  • Risk-taking
  • Self-awareness
  • Self-confidence
  • Sense of humor
  • Strategic thinking taking priority over short-term gamesmanship
  • Stress management
  • Tolerance of change and uncertainty

Productivity

  • Attention to detail
  • Crisis management skills
  • Decision making with effectiveness
  • Delegation for productivity
  • Diligence and attention to detail
  • Entrepreneurial thinking and guts
  • Facilitation of discussion
  • Goal setting skills
  • Innovative problem-solving techniques
  • Lateral thinking
  • Lean techniques
  • Listening skills
  • Managing up
  • Meeting hygiene
  • Planning for projects
  • Problem solving
  • Research skills
  • Technology savvy
  • Time management
  • Troubleshooting

Wisdom

  • Artistic sense and good taste
  • Conflict resolution instincts
  • Creativity in the face of challenges
  • Critical thinking instead of mere compliance
  • Dealing with difficult people
  • Diplomacy in difficult situations
  • Empathy for customers, co-workers, and vendors
  • Intercultural competence
  • Mentoring
  • Social skills
  • Supervising with confidence

Perception

  • Design thinking
  • Fashion instinct
  • Map making
  • Judging people and situations
  • Strategic thinking

Influence

  • Ability to deliver clear and useful criticism
  • Assertiveness on behalf of ideas that matter
  • Body language (reading and delivering)
  • Charisma and the skill to influence others
  • Clarity in language and vision
  • Dispute resolution skills
  • Giving feedback without ego
  • Influence
  • Inspiring to others
  • Interpersonal skills
  • Leadership
  • Negotiation skills
  • Networking
  • Presentation skills
  • Persuasive
  • Public speaking
  • Reframing
  • Selling skills
  • Storytelling
  • Talent management
  • Team building
  • Writing for impact

And Then, the Two Questions:

  1. Is it possible to teach these real skills? Is it possible to focus on them, hire for them, or reward for growth? Can we put in place programs and insights that will lead to progress in all these areas?
  2. If we did, would it matter? Would an organization that excelled at these real skills be more productive, more profitable and a better place to work?

Which leads to: What are we waiting for?

This is why we built the altMBA. To turn on lights and help people realize just how far they can take their soft skills. Because they’re real.

Republished from It's Your Turn.

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