Everybody wants connections.
There are millions of dreamers who are looking to rub shoulders with people who are wealthy, influential, and successful.
So if you want to have good connections, you need to find a way to be different.
Here’s my secret for being different: Build a reputation for creating massive value!
Your greatest networking tool is your reputation for working hard, making things happen, and being the kind of person who doesn’t make excuses when things get tough.
Let me explain why this is important:
People invest in character and momentum.
They don’t just care about how big your imagination is or how heartfelt your passion is.
They care about your ability to stick with things, put up with things, go through things, and get things done.
If you want to be a musician, for instance, no one is going to hire you just because you say you love music. They want to see and hear what you can do. Have you recorded a demo? Do you have YouTube videos of yourself doing cover songs? Where is the evidence for what you say you love? That’s what people want to see.
I hope I’m not sounding too preachy because I say this as someone who spent years trying to get the attention of rich people who had the power to make my dreams come true.
I know what it’s like to pitch my dreams to the very people I grew up watching on TV.
I know what it’s like to have coffee with people who could have changed my life with one check.
The experience is overrated.
It makes for good stories and interesting speeches, but it really doesn’t mean much beyond that. Getting introduced to people with a lot of money and fame isn’t the magic bullet it’s chalked up to be.
If you work hard and create valuable stuff, you’ll eventually get the connections and they’ll be interested in what you’re doing.
If you sit around waiting for the connections to come first, the connections won’t matter because they will not be interested in your work if you don’t have any work to show them.
We’re often told, “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know.”
To that, I add, “It’s not who you know, it’s the value you bring to the relationship.”
Don’t wait for connections.
Start working on your dreams now in whatever way you can.
And when you finally make some connections one day, you’ll be able to show them something that’s worth talking about.
It’s not about getting discovered, it’s about getting ready.
Don’t Dream in Secret
No one remembers the person who allows their creative ideas to be defeated by shame.