Find a Different They

Is It Time for a New They?

As with so many things in life, friendship is more about quality than quantity.

We all want to have the squad that walks in slow-motion and spends all day looking cool. Or we want the idea of it, anyway. There’s comfort in numbers. There’s safety in numbers. Humans are hardwired to seek out a tribe.

But what do we do if the tribe we find ourselves in isn’t good for us? What if the tribe dislikes and shames what we value? What if the tribe encourages thoughts and actions that tear us down and make us feel bad? What if they lead us toward self-destructive behaviors?

That’s not a useful tribe. There’s no comfort there. There’s no safety there. It’s time to find a new one.

It’s scary out there alone. It’s hard. And it takes time to find new friends, a new tribe. A new "They."

But it is possible. And you will be so much better off than if you stay where you are, withering.

As you read through this series, you’ll learn why your friends are so important, how to find better ones, and how to be a great friend to others.

Let’s get to it.